Do you sleep with your baby?

Carol 08/10/2018 at 01:14. 6 answers
Pregnancy & Parenting Newborn & Baby

Please be honest, I have a big dilemma about this. I’m very aware about SIDS, but I also know many people lie about not sleeping with their baby to avoid being lectured and criticized. I have a bassinet next to my bed, but every time I put my baby to sleep there she cries a lot, keep moving, and won’t sleep. I try...

6 Answers

Suzy Q 08/10/2018 at 12:38.

The first week, our youngest kept ending up in our bed with one (or often both) of us awake to monitor him. Baby slept better, we obviously didn't.

So I accepted the fact that physical contact/closeness was what he needed to sleep well, and set about creating a safe co-sleeping situation. We were unwilling to make our own bed suitable for bed sharing (I don't sleep well without pillow and blanket) so instead I bought a cheap IKEA crib, took out the side, and attached it to my side of the bed. I took care that the mattresses were at the same height and that there were no gaps.

And voilà: baby on his own sleep surface, but close enough to cuddle without the side of the crib in the way. We slept like that for 3 months, then he grew out of needing it.

There are several ways to co-sleep safely. Research them and decide which way is best for you and your baby.

Ranchmom1 08/10/2018 at 11:38.

No, I didn't.

It's up to you to decide what you want to do. The main problem I've seen is when one or both parents do it because it's easier at first but harder later when the child is bigger and more active and the parents feels stuck in this situation and resent it.

This might help your baby sleep better:

You might also try white noise and gentle vibration by putting a box fan set on low against leg of the bassinet.

Anonymous 08/10/2018 at 08:38.

I never placed my baby in bed with me at night. It had nothing at all to do with fear of SIDs or any other risk or issue. My reasons were completely based on knowing several couples who had allowed their newborn baby to share the bed with them and then ended up with multiple issues later when trying to teach the baby to sleep in their own bed or in their own room. I know of several couples that still had two and three year old children that would end up in the parent's bed every night because they never learned to sleep in their own room and their own bed. (not just some nights - every night) I even knew one woman who joked about needing to have sex in their child's room because their child was always sleeping in their room.

I absolutely did not want to need to teach my child to sleep in their own room. I based everything on independent sleeping from day one. From newborn to six months, the crib was in my bedroom, but they slept in their crib. At six months, I moved their crib into their own bedroom. Now, that does not mean I ignored my child's needs at night. There were many nights that I spent in their room rocking them or sitting with them because they were fussy. But it was me going to them, not them coming to my bed.

This is a very personal choice and you should do what you feel is right for you and your situation.

old timer 08/10/2018 at 08:38.

Nothing wrong with your baby sleeping with you, it will also give you a better nights sleep. it is hard to get them out of the habit later, but that's ok.

Sweet pea 08/10/2018 at 08:38.

Not at night but he napped on me in a carrier during the day until he was about 5 months old. I personally was too nervous to do it at night but luckily he was a good night sleeper

Pearl L 08/10/2018 at 08:38.

i dont have one, wish i did, theres nothing wrong with your baby sleeping with you