Should i send a picture to a stranger i met online?

Anonymous 03/09/2018. 13 answers
Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

Ok so i met this guy online and we have alot in common.He wants to see a picture of me but i keep saying no.I feel bad and i want to show him what i look like.Its not like im gonna meet him so its not that bad but i still want to know if i should or not.

P.S im 14

13 Answers

Dancing Imu 03/09/2018.

Do not *ever* send a picture to someone you just met online! Even if it's a picture of you wearing a burka! It's just not safe, and particularly at age 14, it could be very dangerous.

Rick 03/09/2018.

It's probably better that you don't. Anything you share online can be there forever and be shared by others.

Anonymous 03/09/2018.

WHOAH you're 14!?!?!?


The guy just wants the picture, not you!

Jack 03/09/2018.

DO NOT SEND A PIC. You're way too young (sorry) and he'll soon be asking you for nudes of yourself. Remember, once pics are out there, they are there forever - you have NO control of where they'll be send, with whom they may be shared, where they could be posted, how they may be modified...just a bad idea to send pics. How old is this guy? Really, how do you know... BE VERY CAREFUL.

my 2 cents 03/09/2018.


James W. 03/09/2018.

No. You don't know who this guy is. His asking for a picture is not a good sign. It’s hard to meet and really get to know a strong man online. It's just too easy for someone to pretend that they're someone they're not. Use dating to find out what he is really like. Pay special attention to how he reacts when he doesn't get his way or something goes wrong.

Many people spend too much time in high school on relationships. My recommendation is that you don't group date until you're a freshman in high school and that you don't one-on-one date until you're a junior in high school. The reason for this suggestion is that only about two percent of high school sweethearts who marry end up having a fifty year marriage.

May I suggest that the first question to ask yourself when considering whether or not to date someone is, “Is this person a strong person?” If they’re not, no matter how much you like them, how much they like you, or how “cute” or “hot” they are, - please don’t date them. A strong person has good character (honesty, integrity, trustworthiness), displays a positive attitude (cheerful, caring, friendly, forgiving, helpful, and respectful), fulfills their responsibilities (for handling pains in a positive way, for always trying to make a good choice, for taking care of themselves, for serving others), gives their best effort, and demonstrates self-control (of their body, anger, mouth and money).

My suggestion is that you put in the effort necessary to become a strong person (if you’re not already) and eventually look for this type of guy (otherwise you are setting yourself up for a broken heart). Unfortunately this type of man is difficult to find – but save yourself the heartache and don’t settle for less.

(Please remember that you eventually want a 50 or 60 year marriage - not a 5 or 10 year marriage.)

Hope this helps!

PS The best way to get to know a strong man without dating is to participate in the activities of a community service or a school organization.

Anonymous 03/09/2018.

No don't send him anything and don't tell him where you live or go to school!

Many years ago during the BBS days I remember this girl your age who met this guy online at first he was nice she made the mistake of giving her address and phone number he turned nasty and threatened to come over and beat her up with this other guy.

Cops and Parents waited all day for that guy to show up but he didn't he could have been just a paper cyber tough guy blowing smoke or maybe he would have showed who knows ? you can't make that mistake yourself because if you do it could cost your life or put your safety in jeopardy!

Faith 03/09/2018.

Would you hand your picture to a stranger you met on the street? No you wouldn't. So no you do not send your picture to strangers online either. It is very easy for someone to pretend to be someone else online. Also ask yourself if your parents would approve of this? I doubt it.

Hurricain 03/09/2018.

Your hesitation means that you have doubts. Your intuition is probably correct here...don't send a pic.

Kevin David 03/09/2018.

Go with your gut instincts... they're keeping you in the safe zone.

Solitary Wanderer 03/09/2018.

Big no no. Don’t send him anything till your 18.

Cato 03/09/2018.

No, 1st build your trust with the dude.

Bertsta 03/09/2018.

Yeah, you're in dangerous territory. Don't talk to strangers online, and def don't send your pic.