Bothered by my boyfriend pleasuring himself?

Anonymous 03/08/2018. 10 answers
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OK so I have been in a relationship for nearly a year now and I've been till this point we have had a pretty consistent sex life. We have recently moved into the same apartment building meaning we see each other consistently every day. But lately I've been noticing that we've had of been having...

10 Answers

history 03/09/2018.

My impression is that all guys masturbate. But not all guys are hooked on watching pornography. If you find that particularly offensive.. find a boyfriend who isn't hooked on it.

ez2tock2 03/09/2018.

Very possible you are with a guy NOT Sensitive to a girl's sexual needs and attention.

Getting a girl off, IS A LOT OF WORK, when a guy is only interested in his pleasure.

You might want to find a guy who ACTUALLY enjoys women's pleasure more than his own.

Besides cleaning the house, paying the bills, cooking, shopping and laundry...

what does he want you for???

I'd rethink this relationship, IF IT WERE ME.

Patricia 03/09/2018.

Sometimes guys don't feel the urge to expend the physical energy it takes to have sexual intercourse. And sometimes guys get a bit bored with sex with the same person over and over (it happens). Find some ways to spice things up in the bedroom? You could always tell him he has to undress, get on his knees, and make him do whatever you want him to do. And toss his face into your crotch sooner than later. Tie him up? Just mix it up.

Masturbation is a normal male habit. Can't change that

Kaylee 03/09/2018.

There is nothing wrong with YOU. The problem is with him. If it were me I would take him to an addiction site because obviously he has an addiction which is making real-life sex less meaningful to him. If he doesn’t want to have sex with you because he doesn’t want to take the time to help you finish, then he’s just plain selfish. While it is normal for him to masturbate while being in a relationship with you, it should never take the place of having sex with you all of the time. He either needs to put more effort into the relationship or it will fail and you will have to break up with him.

Solitary Wanderer 03/09/2018.

I totally understand why you feel this way and I think your justified. Why would he lock himself in the bathroom to masturbate when he has you to pleasure him? Unless he has a an addiction to porn, then that makes no sense to me and a sudden loss of interests in having sex is a sign of that. So you should ask him.

SHELDON 03/09/2018.

Tell him in a gentle way that you'd like to watch him masturbate and ask if he'd like to watch you. The reason men do things like this is because they're not getting what they want from their partner. A woman should be a lady in public and a whore in the bedroom where just about anything goes. Be a whore. He'll love it.

jim 03/09/2018.

go down on him more, boy does this guy owe me bigtime

Mike Z 03/09/2018.

I think you misunderstand the nature's purpose for masturbation. Animals, including people, do it to maintain and improve their sexual function in both body and mind, so that they can be ready and in shape to do it for real.

This is like sports practice, before actually playing the game. People can still play the game, without practicing. But they won't do it as well as those who practice.

It's true that people get pleasure from masturbation, just like they do from eating, drinking, sleeping when tired, and so on. It's nature's way of motivating people to do what needs to be done for good health and good function.

geetarman56 03/09/2018.

I could understand it if he was masturbating 2-3 hours before actual sex was going to happen, because doing that would help make him last longer during the sex session usually. But going in just before bed doesn't make sense. Unless he can get another erection within 30 minutes of masturbating, then it can work the same way.

J 03/09/2018.

you think he is? or you know he is? you have to know if that its a fact and go from there. But for sure you need to open the lines of communication in order to fix the problem.