Was I right in breaking up with him?

Kazziee 02/10/2018. 17 answers
Family & Relationships Family

So I’ve been living with my now ex boyfriend for around 6 months and we’ve been together for 8. I’ve become emotionally invested in him but he no longer makes me happy. I’ve been on the fence for breaking up with him for a week now and being screamed at yesterday was the cherry on the cake. He criticised my job, my...

17 Answers


Anonymous 02/11/2018.

A boyfriend shouldn't make you this miserable. You want a boyfriend that lights up the room and makes your heart flutter when he's nearby. You want a boyfriend who makes you feel secure, comforted, and as if he's behind your back protecting it. You want a boyfriend who wants to hear how you feel or peel your thoughts apart to understand you better.

If he truly cared for you, he would never ever want you to feel like you're the only one keeping the house up and running. He'd some how help you out even if he is unemployed. But you have to look at your life and his. You're the one going to college to try to better your future. You are also working, which is AMAZING. So, you are investing in your own life. The last thing you need is an insensitive boyfriend (or ex) coming through to emotionally tire you and risk you falling off the edge.

The moment you told him you want to break up, "Cool" meant that he never invested into the relationship as he should have. You breaking up should. have scared him enough to wake up and say 'Hey, babe, let's work on this." However, he did realize that without you, there's no money coming into the house. That's why he tried to miserably say "I love you though". Why now when he never says he loves you?

One more thing, which people may disagree with me on this. DON'T MOVE ON WITH A BOYFRIEND. Have your own damn place instead of playing house with somebody, becuase once you start seeing differences with each other, well that's too bad, becuase you're still stuck under one roof. Go get yourself a nice apartment or live with family until you sustain on your feet.


Anonymous 02/12/2018.

Why does everyone have a thumbs down? is it from OP? Does she want me to lie? If I said "Yes" would that make you happy? Being with someone is supposed to make you happy. It seems like this guy was just a tool.


julia 02/11/2018.

You were absolutely correct. This was a toxic and abusive relationship. He’s playing you with that text that he loves you. He’s never said that he loves you, until there’s a chance that you actually will leave him. He’s pathetic and sad, and doesn’t want to lose the one person that he’s been relying on. Don’t get back with him, and don’t pity him. He’s a toxic person, and that’s all there is to it.


Swimming in it 02/11/2018.

Live on your own without a live-in boyfriend for a full two years before you live with a guy.


linkus86 02/11/2018.

You were completely right to break up with him. But the first love is the hardest to get over. You can have every reason under the sun to break up with him, but the pain of the accompanying heartache will gnaw at you to forgive everything. Stay strong and find a way to move him out ASAP. You need time to mourn the relationship, then more time to find a replacement to focus on. Because that is how you move forward.


Anonymous 02/11/2018.

You moved in with him too fast. Only 2 months? You made the mistake, honey. You did not know hardly anything about him before you decided to shack up with him . I hope you learned your mistake. NEVER move in with some random guy you have only know for 2 months.


Nothing 02/11/2018.

You were absolutely RIGHT to break up with him! You were in a relatioship for 8 years so it's reasonable to feel really bad, but you made the right choice. Breakups bring lots of pain, but once you have gone through it, you will see that you are right. Staying with him would have been way more hertbreaking because he would continue to bahave like this. things would never get better... Try to find support from you friends and falmily. Despite what he says, he doesn't love you. If he did, he wouldn't act like this. His final text was meant to make you feel bad. You shouldn't fall for it...


scootertrashbadboy 02/11/2018.

Just move on to the next one. you'll know when you find the right one. You shouldnt have to work at making a relationship work, it should just happen on its own and everything fit in right..


Patricia 02/11/2018.

You two moved in together way too fast. And you didn't even give yourselves the chance to figure out if you're compatible before moving in together, which takes a lot longer than two months. Much longer.

Just because we care for someone, and they might love us? It doesn't make us compatible together.


jl 02/12/2018.

Absolutely you were right, married or not, he should be your partner, not your spoiled son.


No Northern Flight 02/12/2018.

No he's a loser


S 02/11/2018.

you need to learn to love yourself before you can love someone else. get out on your own Do not look for a BF get educated and have a career in place before you get involved in a relationship. Thankfully you did not get married.


I care 02/11/2018.

ABSOLUTELY


boris 02/11/2018.

Shut up. You sound so selfish and needy. Grow up.


Mike 02/11/2018.

DUMP THIS LOSER---you deserve so much better.


faria 02/11/2018.

NO!! DO NOT!! GO BACK TO HIM!! GIRL FIND SOMEONE THAT MAKES YOU FEEL HAPPY, POWERFUL, LOVED, ETC. THIS GUY IS NOT THE ONE!! UR NOT DESTINED FOR HIM!! IF U TAKE HIM BACK YOU'LL FOREVER BE SAD. THERE IS SOMEONE OUT THERE WAITING TO LOVE YOU AND TREAT YOU RIGHT. LOOK FOR THAT PERSON!!


poldi2 02/11/2018.

Sounds like you gave him more time than he deserved with you. It is always hard when someone we care about turns out to be a jerk or worse. But better to find out now rather than a few years from now when you have kids and he becomes violent.

Think of it as an investment in your education - 8 months is not a long time to learn about people.


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