If a person can't forgive you for a mistake, even after you've apologised and made amends years ago what should you do? Just move on?

Anonymous 08/22/2017. 22 answers
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22 Answers


Chloe 03/22/2017.

move on......... the damage *s done and can not be reversed.........


goodsamaritan_1999 03/22/2017.

Just move on


PeekaBoo 03/22/2017.

just move on because even though you might be forgiven doesn't mean that that person wants to continue to socialize with you any longer

because whatever you did probably showed that person a side of yourself that they didn't know about until you did what you did and they don't want to be around someone like that Hard lesson to learn but one to remember people say one thing but mean another


just 03/22/2017.

I don't think it's a matter of forgiveness. I was always walking on peoples egg shells because they didn't like me as a kid growing up because I grew up pretty low income. I don't know why but people don't like you in general, so I was always apologizing and explaining my self.

Then I ran into people who did me wrong and I held a grudge. But then I met some people and learned to forgive, just to live. And those same people who hurt me who were the ones that appeared to not be forgiving before. Actually were also refusing to apologize for hurting me. While I would have the balls to face them, they wouldn't give me the time of day when it was their turn.

They make a big deal about needing to be forgive because they lack the ability and think it's a sure thing, an ace card. A debate topic that you will definitely be wrong about because, they can't forgive people. Almost as an excuse to hurt other people.

Even though these people seem like good people, they are not. They are toxic and this kind of behavior is a red flag. Cut them out of your life. Or else you might become someone who can't forgive, pick up their habit by tricking your self into thinking you are their equal.


Armouror 03/22/2017.

for 10 years i have asked My Brother to apologise he has refuses constantly so i have Given up and Moved on


Courtney 03/22/2017.

The person needs to forgive themselves before they can forgive others. You tried. Move forward if you have forgiven yourself. That's all that matters.


Happy Hiram 03/22/2017.

Forgiveness is not automatic. There is a difference between apologizing and amending the bad behavior. Amend the bad behavior and maybe they will come around. Or maybe they won't.


small 03/22/2017.

Yes..... asking for forgiveness can not be a one-sided affair..... the other party ought to have the mental strength to forgive in deserving cases..... one-handed clap is no clap at all.


giginotgigi 03/22/2017.

Ignore him and isolated from him. He may have his malicious plan to blackmail you.

Luke 9:62 And Jesus said unto him, No man that putteth his hand to the plough, and looketh back, is apt to the kingdom of God.


Erika 03/22/2017.

I think moving on is the best course of action, because if someone can't forgive you even after you've made amends and apologized, then it isn't worth it. But I think you should also look at what happened, and think about how YOU would've responded, too. Would you have responded the same, or differently?

In short, do what you think you should do. Take your time with the decision and think thoroughly and critically about it.


Dawn 03/22/2017.

move on


Jackie 03/22/2017.

can only do one of three things

forgive

forsake

forget

recommends forgive


Raja 03/22/2017.

It depends on the gravity of the mistake . It it has caused him a sever mental pain or emotional suffering or an irreparable loss which he is unable to erase off from his mind and which recurs whenever he see you which he may not be in a position to forgive and forget ,you may simply carry on as you have done your duty by apologizing and making amendments.


grey_worms 03/22/2017.

can only do one of three things

forgive

forsake

forget

recommends forgive


Mr. Interesting 03/22/2017.

Yes. You cannot control others or how they feel. You can only control yourself and how you respond to your own emotions.

When one is not wanted, they must move on, without regret. Lessons learned.


Plogsties 03/22/2017.

What else can you reasonably do? The answer is yes.


Tj 03/22/2017.

move on


chickenwing 03/22/2017.

Move on. The damage *s done and can not be reversed.


Dave 03/22/2017.

Yeh move on. Ppl have different makeups and unfortunately some take longer than others to forgive and forget. So atleast u have apologised and made amends. Thats all u can do .


Gerald 03/22/2017.

not do it again bozo that's what you do forget it is to repeat it hold your hands up and be a better person for it a lesson we all need to learn or we are doomed


Old Timer 03/22/2017.

yeah... you cannot control others or how they feel... you can only control yourself and how you respond to your own emotions...

when one is not wanted, they must move on, without regret... lessons learned...


Rachel 03/22/2017.

yeh move on... ppl have different makeups and unfortunately some take longer than others to forgive and forget... so atleast u have apologised and made amends... thats all u can do ...

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